I test sex toys for a living, so I thought I knew a lot about the female orgasm. The practice is nothing new — it exists in Tantric and Taoist traditions. My system combines the law of attraction the belief that we attract into our lives whatever we focus on with visualisation techniques and my own orgasmic energy. I set an intention, then stimulate myself sexually while I use my imagination to eroticise my aim.

Sex is a completely natural and normal activity — meant to be an intimate act, whether it is self-pleasuring or masturbation, or shared with someone you trust. Touching becomes a sexual activity if it involves touching or fondling the breasts, buttocks, anus, or genitals of another person. Touching yourself in any of these ways to arouse sexual feelings is called masturbation. Small kisses on the cheek or hand and even pecks on the mouth may be normal to exchange between family and friends, and are not usually considered sexual. But longer kissing on the mouth and other intimate parts of the body, including the neck, chest, abdomen, and genitals is considered sexual activity.

And "new" only counts if neither of you have done it. Basically a rom-com in the making. With a local: Erfurt, Germany. For more than 20 years Johanna von Hassell has lived in the city of Erfurt, in Thuringia, Germany. Locals say you should always buy them from stalls where they are grilled over charcoal.