We're guessing the thought of putting on a sensual lap dance a la Nicki Minaj in the "Anaconda" video seriously, Drake got the show of his life either makes you cringe or totally piques your interest. Sure, she knows a thing or two about making this chair dance seem out-of-this-world sexy, but that doesn't mean you can't learn it, too! We spoke to Ilov Grate, a pole dancing instructor at S Factor New York who also happens to teach their lap dance class! She suggests not overthinking things and going with what feels right to you. Smith also says having a glass of wine is a good way to ease your nerves—but keep it to a half a glass a drunk lap dance is not cute. If you're the super-nervous type, Smith recommends practicing your routine solo first so you'll have a better idea of what works and what feels totally unnatural. Breathe, Breathe, Breathe Breathing is key to not only calm your nerves, but also to keep your body moving smoothly.

Wanting to tap into your inner diva and mastering the art of seduction is totally natural not to mention incredibly sexy. Foreplay is not only just a fun part of initiating sex , but it can actually be an incredible time to bond you to your partner — and what better way than by turning your man on with the sexiest movements your hips can offer? It can also be an incredibly freeing moment for you as well, and make you feel sexy and confident before you even touch each other. If you want to get your man hot and bothered as a special occasion or even as a new form of foreplay before things really take off in the bedroom, then lap dances can be an intimate fun way to initiate sex.

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